Despite the fact that yesterday felt like September and one month ago looked like February, it is, indeed…December . And while I’m not one to set “monthly goals” or try and “start fresh” once my bird calendar flips (December just so happens to be a Snowgirl White Chicken) I do enjoy thinking about what I’m looking forward to in the coming 31 days. Ya dig?

December just so happens to celebrate many important birthdays (mom, best friend, nearly sister-in-law). And you know what the best part about birthdays is? You’re simply told where to go to have tons of fun. No stress! I already know I’m venturing to the les saturday night, getting kick-ass mexican on Long Island Sunday evening, and going here for some classy cocktails next weekend. Thanks for being born in December, mom nic kati. I’m looking forward to it!

I’m also, well, going to Chicago. Last Sunday Ali asked me if I wanted to go—round trip tickets were $113— and I immediately said no. Then I said I’d think about it, then convinced myself I shouldn’t think about it, then thought about how I could put that money towards going somewhere BETTER (colorado, peru, seattle), and then said fuck it, then booked my flight. I’ve only been to Chicago long enough to eat a slice of deep dish and continue driving west, so I’m excited to re-explore the city and see whats up.

I am also going to a new opening at the Rubin—  a collection of comic books that depict Tibet, both real and imagined. I’m stoked… cause comics are awesome.  And for some reason, I get to go to the VIP part. It includes a free glass of wine! AAAND I get a plus one… come with me!

It’s also almost Christmas, so that means holiday presents and parties. Now, I love buying gifts for people! Spending money on myself puts me in a panic, but dishing out the dough for my beloved loves aint no thang. Our holiday grotluck at work will also be sick, since it’ll include a secret santa and SNACKS and really nice conversations and probs christmas music and Beyonce aaand tinsel. Hopefully tinsel.

Last few looking-forward things: Christmas day. And new years eve. And going on a sticker stampede around nyc. And running outside. And hopefully seeing snow. And being cold. And hunching over my space heater. And coffee. And mornings in Brooklyn. And friends. And work. And work friends. Family. Pretty lights. More pie. That’s it.

Then we’ll deal with 2012.

PS) Whoever searched “sri lankan girls get fun with tourists” to get to this blog (you’ve done it twice), please let me know. I’d like to chat.

I couldn’t fall asleep last night so I wrote a bucket list. It’s right above you. If I don’t accomplish everything on that list, my life will have proved to be meaningless.

Song

Tugging at chords, writing verses.
We refrained and repeated,
arranged and rearranged.
We wrote accidentals on purpose,
a constant changing of keys.

Fine tuning each other,
playing in perfect pitch. Bars every
few beats drawn and erased—
finding when best to take a breath.

Isn’t it ironic, strings plucked on stage
tuning—adjusting?
All I hear is discord and chaos,
missing melodies that mend.

So we wrote symphonies, you and I,
mastering the music. Those secret
songs ravaged reality, crafting a
perfect world between only our fingers. 

And finishing with the perfect cadence,
we played a sequence of chords.
Not repeating this time— a clean cutoff.
Stilled strings and silent voices.

Oh hello! I hope you all had wonderful Thanksgivings and by now, have digested. The holiday up in New Hampshire was as expected: relaxing, delicious, and comforting! There was artichoke dip and cheese, many bottles of wine, football (on mute), turkey turkey turkey, PIE, cognac (which my mom took shots of by accident), trivial pursuit, long runs in cold weather, drives to the ocean, leftovers, roasted vegetables, reading, writing, coffee, skyping across the country, and maker’s. I think that covered it (:

I went on one of the best runs on the Friday after the Feast, and it really got me thinking about why I actually enjoy working out. I’ve realized that I do different exercises for different reasons, but all GOOD ones, I believe. Running is the obvious one. It keeps me sane.  I run to explore new places, clear my mind, listen to T.I., and get a healthy dose of endorphins. I run for an hour so I can proceed to plop myself on the couch for six. I do it to thank my legs for carrying me many places, all without injury. (I’m lucky, I don’t know what a shin splint or a stress fracture feels like).  I’m not big into racing because I never liked the feeling of being beyond exhausted and in pain…kinda ruins it. I run because it’s FUN, and is a part of my life just as brushing my teeth, going to work, eating breakfast, and listening to Beyonce are.

Now, do I do pushups or pullup(s), circuit work, or lunges because it’s fun and I love clearing my head and it relaxes me? Hell to the no. I strength train because it’s challenging. I like surprising people with my strong shoulders and legs. I like pushing myself and entering uncharted territories…and seeing improvement. I had a personal training session last week that nearly killed me, and I’m excited to replicate it next week. For me, strength training is about discipline and motivation, and is a sheer test of dedication—(and something I’m dedicated to only every now and then..).

Yoga fits in here too (namaste). I love yoga because I’m always learning and experiencing new poses, teachers, rhythms, and philosophies. I hardly ever stretch after running (woops), so it really helps out with my flexibility (my fingers have only recently been introduced to my toes). But mainly, I practice yoga to get to that ending savasana pose, where I can for the life of me do absolutely nothing for five minutes. It’s about the only time I settle down.

On that note, it’s 63 degrees in Brooklyn. Time for a run! 

Thankful

The clamor of alarms, sun
staring between panes, floorboards—
Wednesday.
Knees crack, then eyes.
Shoulders gather my legs gather my,
Up.

Being can be heavy
but today it’s weighted only
by beauty: coffee before showers
before walking under highways.
Trains under water, stairs to
creativity and creations.

Thankful for most things, all things:
sore limbs and cold whiskey,
soft thumbs and stupid smiles.
The smell of smoke soothes,
senses and sights and small
bites of beauty.

The jewels on my wrists are secret
remains and reminders of
love. She wears curtains to bed
and rests—all things useful once
twisted, new vision and soft breathing.

We need nothing so we have nearly
everything. And for what’s missing,
place palms in dirt and know
this ground holds all things dear.

Oh holidays.

Easter is alright, but egg hunts and pastel colors are sort of overrated. Christmas is wonderful, but the month-long hype takes over the actual day. St. Patricks Day always results in an incredible hangover, and let’s be real—Halloween is mildly uncomfortable. That’s why, in my opinion, Thanksgiving takes the cake (or pie I guess?).

Thanksgiving is without the hype (no one has blow-up turkey lawn decorations), so people can actually enjoy the day and not feel bummed when it’s over. It’s squished right between the crisp of autumn and the ice of winter. There’s football, great food, and even better family.

And for me, it’s also nostalgic. As a kid, my brother and I would squeeze between my Nana in the backseat of our Taurus for a six hour trek up to New Hampshire. My grandmother was always extremely generous (a trait passed on to my whole immediate family, me thinks), and always had some sort of treat for us. On these particular trips it was hockey cards. Me and Jim would open up packs and packs with bated breath, scrambling to look up promising finds in our beckett book (remember those?). Before we knew it, 1-84 and 95 and 90 and what have you were a thing of the past.

My aunt and uncle live in Derry, NH, and I grew up believing their home was magical.  I would go exploring in their backyard, which my little eyes  believed to be millions of acres of pure wilderness. I would get “lost” in the fallen leaves, stamping on sticks while pretending I was an explorer looking for her horse (I had a weird obsession with horses and a genuine interest in explorers). After finding Penny and fighting off the bad guys and discovering a new world or seven, I would come back inside to a house that smelled like butter.

And before the big meal, my cousin would roll out one of those huge projection screens so he could show us photos of his latest hikes. We’d all sit around with a plate full of snacks as he talked (for what seemed like hours, sorry Rich!) of beautiful lookouts and close encounters with mountain lions.

Once dinner was ready, I would force everyone to go around the table and say what they were thankful for. And every year I would answer “tissues,” since I always had a cold (and I was a snarky little girl). Then, of course, we’d dig in. And once we were full? Well, we kept eating. Right?

Going up to New Hampshire has no longer turned into an annual event. With aging and time comes relocation, new traditions, and hectic lives. Now my cousins live in Oregon and Colorado, so my aunt and uncle sometimes fly across the country for turkey day. Other times, my immediate family invites friends over, or like least year, I just stay put and make a turkey with 30 year old housemates.

But this year, the tradition is back: I’m going up to New Hampshire, and am so so super stoked. I’m ready to take a little break from this big city and say hello to New England. I will hard chill with my family. I will watch football and go running in the clean, cold air. And I will drink copious amounts of wine and eat pumpkin every-anything. It’s gonna be great.

Near Perfect

Worlds click in such strange ways.
Neighbors become lovers become
near perfect.

Now we’re tearing hands from holds,
forgetting— for failure
being burdensome.

Elbows freeze and knuckles ache
when two strangers who saw
everything too well, only glance.

Guilt no longer fits this.
Rather, simple sadness for stretching to
perfection and slipping.
Quiet loss.

If doors were still cracked and words left
said, angels would shout
there is still so much beauty to grip. 
And I’d say— first, dig deep
in mirrors and see for yourself,
yourself: Boundless worth. 

Dreams

Waking on a roof, discovering a world
lying on another.
Trees and driveways and small, simple houses,
edges of oceans mending tides. 
And summits of skyscrapers 
poking out from the ground—
gasping.

Startled by dreaming, a dream so peaceful
and startling. Filled with desires to reach
arms beyond arms length.

My roof has the worst view of the best city,
in hands I can’t grasp tightly. 
I see the highway where I want to move 
with traffic, rediscovering rhythms and regular
heartbeats, stubborn dreams.

I dream again of a road too tall, driving
vertically, breaking
downwards. Disordered minds
and strength collide,
creating intentions not intended, pulling
forward with hope that backwards is
all right.

And love squeezing between, 
sealing uncertainty.
A cause for calming commotion.
The tug-of-war of dreams.

The Great Forgetting

Stilled history—

Stripped hands and rubber

from jungles,

tangled ankles and a sunset

that blanketed oceans.

This time of year if you blink too slowly

the sun will set. And all that tends to happen

in clear daylight receds, curling itself under

water, taking a breath.

You forgot tickets in that drawer I wish I

could build. One day when I discover

what my hands can craft I’ll reprint

what’s worth remembering.

And why is it that books are filled with so many stories?

We cannot keep them all—our belongings heavy and whole.

So I removed a pebble from my bag and like wings, could

carry everything again. 

Ice

She stuffs herself in subways

just tight enough for hips

to slide past hips, palms

stuck on poles and knuckles

against knuckles, skin on

skin. Globs of glue on orange caps

must be scraped and scraped—

we get angry when glue sticks.

A blind woman watches snowflakes become yanked

from the ground and float to the sky—the train stops

suddenly and her chin falls between

the shoulder blades of a stranger.

Breath on backs the icy air floats into lungs and warms

like hands on knees build fires.

She scrapes the ice from the car she’ll never drive

and sits behind the wheel just to feel.

And riding rush hour trains to Brooklyn and back, she melts

ice.